Did you know that photos can help increase your child’s happiness?

Did you know that photos can help increase your child’s happiness?

When the kids start school we are often asked if they can answer DO YOU KNOW questions like: ‘Do you know where you live?’ ‘Do you know your full name?’ ‘Do you know when your birthday is/how old you are?’ Research has shown that knowing the answer to slightly deeper questions about family history like:  ‘do you know where your mum and dad went to school? Do you know where your parents met?’ can significantly increase children’s emotional health and happiness. A while ago there was a great article that appeared in the New York Times – The Family Stories that Bind Us  To quote from that article:

“The more children knew about their family’s history… the higher their self-esteem… The ‘Do You Know?’ scale turned out to be the best single predictor of children’s emotional health and happiness. The bottom line: if you want a happier family, create, refine and retell the story of your family’s positive moments and your ability to bounce back from the difficult ones.”

One of the easiest to get those conversations started and tell those stories is to spend time looking through your photos. Remember the old saying a picture tells a thousand words! This year we challenge you to prepare and equip yourself to get these conversations started and work towards increasing your child’s emotional well being and happiness.  Here are some simple ideas to help you get started.

  • Get the photos off your phone and/or camera
  • Print some photos to display around your home
  • Create a family year book and read it to your children
  • How about an A to Z photobook all about your family to help your children learn the alphabet?  I did one for my two and despite them now having learned all their letters they still love reading it!

NOW is the perfect time to get into the routine of getting your photos organised so you can utilise them in any number of photo related products that can be enjoyed by your family. If you are curious about the 20 questions on the ‘Do You Know Scale’ read more here. How often do you look through your old photos?  Could your kids answer some of these ‘do you know’ questions? Have a magical day Mara

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